Identity politics seems intuitive but has very different meanings depending on the person using it. People exploit intuitive notions of "identity" or the ambiguity of "identity politics" in order to manipulate people. I advise caution both when you see people criticizing "identity politics" AND when you see people defending it.
This book is a look at the traits and mindset of abusive men. Some of its insights are surprising and shed light on why domestic abuse is so hard to detect and treat.
One should always, in my opinion, be suspicious of incongruent dichotomies. I show how the false dichotomy of logic vs. emotion (thinking vs. feeling) is used to discredit groups of people and justify laziness.