Where does Nice Guy Syndrome come from?

I talk about what Nice Guy Syndrome is, the faulty mental model I think causes it, and how that faulty thinking is reinforced by fairly commonplace and uncriticized portrayals of romance.

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On the place of empathy in social justice movements

It's unfortunately very common for people to weaponize empathy -- to call for empathy in order to tell people seeking justice to be quieter. Due to this frequent occurrence, I think it is common for people to view practicing empathy as antithetical to achieving justice. In this essay, I argue that the act of truly practicing empathy is much different than what is prescribed by many people who call for empathy, and that truly practicing empathy dovetails with (rather than opposes) justice.