I talk about what Nice Guy Syndrome is, the faulty mental model I think causes it, and how that faulty thinking is reinforced by fairly commonplace and uncriticized portrayals of romance.
This book is about the process by which conflict is mistaken for, and thus escalated into, abuse. The author also talks about how shunning shuts people off from crucial knowledge, and how a mentality of supremacy and/or trauma drives this escalation + shunning behavior. She analyzes how this process plays out for an eclectic set of social issues ranging from abusive relationships to large-scale political conflict. I discuss the shared themes of Conflict Is Not Abuse, Why Does He Do That?, and Nonviolent Communication in order to give some insights into abuse, rationalizations of violence, coercion/control, and deescalation.
Dealing with criticism is hard. I give some tips drawn from my life experience for dealing with criticism gracefully without feeling bitter and resentful at the person dishing it out.
Identity politics seems intuitive but has very different meanings depending on the person using it. People exploit intuitive notions of "identity" or the ambiguity of "identity politics" in order to manipulate people. I advise caution both when you see people criticizing "identity politics" AND when you see people defending it.
This book is a look at the traits and mindset of abusive men. Some of its insights are surprising and shed light on why domestic abuse is so hard to detect and treat.
One should always, in my opinion, be suspicious of incongruent dichotomies. I show how the false dichotomy of logic vs. emotion (thinking vs. feeling) is used to discredit groups of people and justify laziness.
This book puts forward the argument that the right's political strategy since the '60s has been built on fanning class resentment but disguising it as a culture war. The result is a cycle of backlash against "liberal elites" that pushes U.S. politics rightward each time it occurs. Its analysis and predictions are particularly insightful in light of the last election.