I talk about my struggles with understanding romantic love, my current mental model of what romantic love consists of, and detail what I hope are insights I've gained from my struggles.
When people talk about incels and when incels talk about their plight of being sexless, there is a temptation to focus exclusively on the sexual aspects, and understandably (given the name of the community) that seems to be what it's all about. In this post I discuss the emotional, social, and cultural aspects of having sex and being in a romantic relationshp and how reducing the incel problem to sex obsession is not honest, moral, or helpful.
In this post, I give a brief introduction to Stoicism and compare it to modern, watered-down versions of Stoicism, and, more broadly, other philosophies (or self-help methods) that are less demanding than Stoicism. I discuss why the strictness of Stoicism in its original form leads to relaxations that can often bear very little relationship to the original, and in some cases look almost the opposite of Stoicism. These relaxations can sometimes be troubling or dangerous because they allow Stoicism to be used propagandistically.
I talk about a certain type of amoral person who repudiates moralizing and talk about how this position is incoherent.
Dealing with criticism is hard. I give some tips drawn from my life experience for dealing with criticism gracefully without feeling bitter and resentful at the person dishing it out.
One should always, in my opinion, be suspicious of incongruent dichotomies. I show how the false dichotomy of logic vs. emotion (thinking vs. feeling) is used to discredit groups of people and justify laziness.