Dealing with criticism is hard. I give some tips drawn from my life experience for dealing with criticism gracefully without feeling bitter and resentful at the person dishing it out.
Identity politics seems intuitive but has very different meanings depending on the person using it. People exploit intuitive notions of "identity" or the ambiguity of "identity politics" in order to manipulate people. I advise caution both when you see people criticizing "identity politics" AND when you see people defending it.
It's unfortunately very common for people to weaponize empathy -- to call for empathy in order to tell people seeking justice to be quieter. Due to this frequent occurrence, I think it is common for people to view practicing empathy as antithetical to achieving justice. In this essay, I argue that the act of truly practicing empathy is much different than what is prescribed by many people who call for empathy, and that truly practicing empathy dovetails with (rather than opposes) justice.